Tantric Sex: Deep Love Making Beyond Conventional Sex | Diana Richardson #077
Listen on iTunes / Apple Podcast App Listen on Spotify Listen on All Other Platforms Are you caught up in the ever repeating known of sex that only slightly fulfils you? mainly short term? Diana Richardson has been teaching Tantra and assisting couples transform their relationships for decades. She is a highly experienced teacher, facilitator and author in supporting couples to go beyond quick dopamine-hits of hot conventional sex to experience greater fulfilment, intimacy and love. What love-making experiences await beyond “climaxes“ of orgasm and ejaculation? How to transform mechanical repetition of sex to a timeless sexual experience? Containing the Life Force – overcoming pre-mature ejaculation and enlivening The Penis as a Potent Electromagnetic Instrument. How to enhance sensitivity and desire and dissolve sexual reluctance – especially in the second half of life and post-menopause? ABOUT OUR GUEST: DIANA RICHARDSON Born in Zululand, South Africa, obtained a degree in Law from University of Natal (B.A.LLB). She is a teacher of Therapeutic Massage since 1978 (ITEC). In 1979 she became a disciple of the Indian mystic Osho. Her interest in meditation touch and healing initiated an exploration into Tantra, the union of sex and meditation. In 1993 she began teaching Tantra to couples. Writing as Diana Richardson, her first book was published in 1999. Since then she has written seven additional books, two of which are with Michael Richardson as co-author. IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS: Contents hide 1 The Imprint That Modern Society Makes On Us Regarding Sex and Sexuality 2 The Meaning Behind the Concept of Tantric Sex 3 Cold Sex as Opposed to Hot Sex 4 How The Energies Play Out During and After Sexual Climax 5 Moving Away from Habitual Ways of Love Making and Engaging in Tantric Sex 6 Transcending Performance Anxiety in Men 7 Practical Tips on How To First Approach Tantric Sex 8 Tantric Sex Tips Specifically for Same-Sex Partners 9 Menopause and Sexual Activity 10 Resources The Imprint That Modern Society Makes On Us Regarding Sex and Sexuality The goal of both participants being always to climax. The lack of proper awareness, education and dialogue surrounding love-making / sexual intercourse. Overstimulation, oversensation & a lack of understanding of how to unwind the sexual imprint that we carry with us. The Meaning Behind the Concept of Tantric Sex “Tantra denies nothing but transforms everything.” “Tantra is the transformation of sex into love through awareness.” – Osho Tantric Sex primarily consists of bringing awareness to the sexual exchange. Being more present in the moment and in tune with what one is experiencing and receptive towards the experience of the other. Cold Sex as Opposed to Hot Sex Cold sex is often linked to the relaxation of the body as a product of an increasing sense of awareness during sex, which in turn reduces body temperature and simultaneously allows for the welcoming of even more pleasure. Cold sex, in comparison to hot sex, allows for a longer duration of the sexual exchange which usually makes room for the woman to be able to actually reach climax. Hot sex, which is usually characterized by a high degree of rapid and overstimulating friction, tends to lead to male ejaculation but often leaves the woman dissatisfied. Hot sex usually works for a couple during its beginning stages, the so called “Honeymoon Stage”. But after a while of practicing this type of sex, the female body begins to be closed out because it is not being met on a deeper level. How The Energies Play Out During and After Sexual Climax Climax = discharge, particularly in terms of hormones. And with every peak/climax, a slump follows. The emotional disconnect that occurs after the climax happens. Short term fulfillment (regular sex) vs. Long term fulfillment (tantric sex). When the sexual exchange is approached, not necessarily seeking to achieve a climax, but to instead fully enjoy & be present during the experience itself, the energy that remains between the participants after sex is very different. Moving Away from Habitual Ways of Love Making and Engaging in Tantric Sex The shift needs to be gradual because you’re turning over something deeply imprinted within your psyche. It is sometimes hard to stop having sex in the way we are accustomed to. Awareness plays a key role in this. It is important to be able to discern what is happening when it is happening and take appropriate action. How to approach tantric sex with a partner that is not really interested or keen to explore a different way to engage in sex. Transcending Performance Anxiety in Men Shifting the perspective so as to not give as much importance to whether or not your partner climaxes or if you’re able to keep a full erection during the whole time. There are ways in which you can keep engaging in intercourse with a relaxed penis if an erection is not happening. For men, relaxing the body when about to climax helps a lot to last longer: anus, buttocks, shoulders, and jaw especially. Practical Tips on How To First Approach Tantric Sex It is most important to understand that tantric sex is not a technique per se. It’s keystone is Awareness, which is not a technique, but something that is available to anyone who engages in some type of sexual activity. Being present and connecting with the Self and the Other. Open your eyes. Instead of looking out, drawing the energy outwardly, just relax your eyes and let things come to you. It’s not about staring out and being critical or overanalyzing what you see (thus drawing energy in an outward direction), but allowing for that which your eyes perceive to ground you in the present moment and for your awareness to expand. Ancient Tantric sutra: “When the energy of the eyes is inverted, it falls back on the heart and opens it”. The “Inner Home” Use a part of your body as an anchor to which you can direct your awareness when your mind is scattered. Take longer and slower breaths. Try to always breathe through the nose. Nose breathing increases oxygenation in the body, which energizes you. Nose breathing is linked to long-lasting erections in men. To